MOMVERSATION MONDAYS!

Heather Armstrong from Dooce is getting closer to delivering baby #2 so she started off the topic on "How Do You Prepare For A Second Child".

For myself I was a little nervous about having Chicky. My son was pretty much my everyday and I wondered what was I going to with him once this second baby came into our lives? How was she going to be incorporated in our troop? How will Ducky feel about it? I had some guilt about that but at the same time in my selfish side of my sub cranium I was perturbed by the idea of having to go through "newborn" stages all over again. Hell! I got my son potty trained and now I have to diaper and breastfeed all over again. It was a crappiest game of Monopoly where once my son was in a state of independence I landed on the Go To Jail block! Don't pass go. Don't collect your sanity!

But once Chicky was born I didn't feel like that anymore and at the same time I didn't feel like a complete idiot because I had done that before and I could say to those who were questioning me: " Umm, yes, I've done this before! Believe me, she will make it to her High School graduation in one piece!". Not to mention I got lucky that after having my son who's all energy (me!), I got a very laid back baby #2. She's her father's child!

I agree with Dana when she says you are so much confident with your second child. I kept second guessing myself with my first child. I was paranoid about diseases and injuries that I don't think my son was able to breath until I told him to half the time. But with my daughter, she could bounce off the couch while playing with my son and I don't have the urge to go get a cat scan. Not that I won't comfort her if she's hurting, but when my son tripped at friends house and clipped the fire place I was ready to dial 911 and had them on speed dial!

I actually never thought of how they were going to interact with each other until one day I went to pick Ducky up from Kiddie Kollege and he ran towards me, then dodge me all together and gave his little sister a big hug and said I miss you so much! Heart squish! Now that I go back through it all, life would never have been right without both my kids. We are complete!!