MOMVERSATION MONDAY: Did You Take Your Husband's Name?

Momversation Monday!!!
Rebecca Woolf of Girl's Gone Child ask did you take your husband's name?

Hello my name is Vanessa Mayhem. Or was is Vanessa first last name?
I took my husband's name when we got married. At first there was a struggle between my mother and I because of it.

My mother named me Vanessa "blank" mainly because it was a professional name, it ran off the tongue easy and it was unique! I agreed with her 100%. But I felt that traditional was calling me and so was my husband's last name.

I felt in the beginning that I was trying to please his family with the changing of my last name since I wasn't going to change my religion. For me names can always be changed, hyphenated and mixed around. But religion it not something I have ever just walked into and changed on a dime.

So for a long time I was going back and forth with my name. But once we got married and my name was changed, I realized that the sky is the limit when it comes to names.

If you go on my Facebook my name is hyphenated for those friends who know me as my first name, but now they know that I am married.

On my IDs and personal information has Vanessa Mayhem (an no, Mayhem is not my real name!).

And for anything professional I would like to have my maiden name on it. Why? Because, like my mother said "It's professional and unique". And for me, I need to stand out!

I was hoping that maybe Cpl. Mayhem would take my last name because from what I've gathered my sister are the last generation with the last name and I was hoping that if we had a son we could give him my last name so my name wouldn't "die" with myself and my sisters.

Problem: He's just as traditional as I am!