And because this year I've decided my main goal is to make negatives into positives I'm making the looking at the stereotypes a different way.
#1 It takes a strong woman to pick up her life from her friends, family and career to move to the other side of the country to be with the man she loves. We choose this life because we fell in love with a man that happens to be a soldier.
#2 Military spouses are resilient. We have to be! In a split second you can get posted to another location. We learn to take any obstacle or hardship, roll with the punches and bounce back better than before. Nothing is written down in pen, anything can change at drop of a hat. We learn to have a plan B, C and D.
#3 Military spouses are the most educated bunch of women I have ever met. And they are the most undervalued group. With constant moves throughout their soldier's career, military spouses' careers are put in the back burner. Employers hear "military spouse" and the chance of getting a job is gone in a snap because who wants to train some for them to leave a couple of years later.
Some military spouses now run their own businesses that they can take from posting to posting. And I don't just mean your typical Avon and Tupperware parties. Some military spouses have become photographers, bakers, making gift baskets, consultants, freelance writers, hair dressers, and aestheticians. We have learned to take lemons and we make lemonade.
#4 Military spouses are mature. You have to grow up a lot more in this lifestyle. You learn to make big decisions like having to make a will, setting up emergency contact numbers and preparing for the worst. You learn to fix things on your own because something will break down when your soldier is gone. You need to rely on yourself to get through any sort of crisis.
#5 Military spouses are firmly rooted in reality. We are thrown into this fishbowl life. And in our reality we have the understanding that our soldiers jobs puts them in life or death situations. So we enjoy every minute they are home and capture every important event so they don't miss a thing while he is gone. Homecomings are better than holidays.
There you have it! Some of the great things about military spouses. Did I miss anything? Tell me what I forgot.















5 witnessing the mayhem:
love your outlook, and I totally agree with you!
CBG
canadianbloggergirl.blogspot.com
When I first moved to a base I'd have been singing the same tune right alongside you. After living this life for years now I see things a little bit differently.
I sure don't agree that being a hoebag / homewrecker is right, but there's a lot of loneliness around here. The longer I experience this lifestyle, the easier it is to see why people do what they do.
Military spouses do have it a lot differently than civilians. I don't think we're a different breed of people though - hoebags and gold-diggers run through all walks of life just like thoughtful, self-sufficient people do. Maybe it's the small military world that causes one bad apple to ruin the bunch?
I love this.
Although I have met some military wives who are NOT mature in the least.
hi vanessa,
wow, i think it's been a "while" since i've been over to your site! i am sure this is a new design! it looks wonderful, however, i'm probably dating myself to my last visit... but that is one of my reasons for popping by... i'm trying to get back intouch with some of my bloggy buddies who is miss, so consider yourself missed.. and ps. i admire military spouses soooo much! and your husbands for putting themselves out there everyday for the safety of everyone in their countries!
*waving!
shelley
http://www.im-stillstanding.com
My Mom-in-law is a military spouse and I completely agree with everything you've mentioned in this post...she's a real brave woman!
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